How to Talk to Your Partner About STI Testing

For many people, the idea of talking about getting tested for STIs with a partner seems like an awkward thing to do. However, talking openly can be a nice way to show your partner(s) that you care about your health and their health. It also demonstrates to you that they care about your health, and it feels really nice to be cared about.

You might think talking about STIs has to be a huge conversation, but it doesn’t! You may find that it’s actually a short discussion once you and your partner are on the same page about what’s important to each of you. 

It can be hard to know how to bring up the topic of STIs, so here are ideas on how to have a very natural yet empowering chat about STIs with your partner:

Start before you're having sex...

It can be easier to talk about STIs before you’re in the heat of the moment. You can try to pick a time when you both feel comfortable and will have some privacy for a few minutes.

You could start the conversation with:

• “Before we have sex, I wanted to talk about STI testing and protection.”
• “I really like you, and before things get more physical, I want to talk about our sexual health.”
• “I really care about us, and I think it’s important we talk about STIs and protection.”
• “I want us both to feel safe, so can we talk about STIs and protection?”

You can ask:

• "When was the last time you got tested?"
• “What were the results of your last STI test?”
• “Have you had any partners since your last STI test?” 
• "Can we talk about using condoms?"
• “What methods of birth control are you comfortable with?”

Getting tested for STIs is a normal part of having sex. And remember if you test positive for an STI, try not to panic. Many STIs can be treated, and others can be managed with medicine and follow-up care. Your provider can help you understand your next steps.

You deserve partners who are willing to have honest conversations about sexual health.

If you would like to know more about STI testing or have questions about sexual health, make an appointment to talk to a provider at your nearest The Right Time health center.